You don’t always have to move on from people. Sometimes, you move back to yourself. – Nakeia Homer

Good morning, gentle heart 💛

Let’s talk about something real.
Not work. Not goals. Not to-do lists.
Let’s talk about people—and the quiet ache that lingers when you feel drained by someone who should have been your safe space.

You may not always recognize it at first, but toxic relationships leave signs in your body before your mind can explain them:

• You feel anxious before seeing them

• You silence your voice to avoid conflict

• You give more and receive less

• You feel small in their presence

If you’ve felt this… this newsletter is for you.

Today, we take a breath not just to feel better—but to reclaim our peace from places we once lost it.

🌞 Today’s Intention

“I am allowed to protect my peace—even if it disappoints someone else.”

You don’t owe your energy to anyone who drains it.
Boundaries are not rejection. They are redirection—to self-respect.

Let this be the intention that reshapes how you show up today: softer with yourself, stronger for yourself.

🧠 Mindful Insight

Why Toxic bonds are so hard to Break (and How to start gently)

Toxic relationships—whether romantic, family, or even friendships—often hook us in with confusion cycles:

• They love-bomb, then withdraw

• They make you feel needed, then neglected

• They leave you questioning yourself, not them

🔬 The science? This creates dopamine spikes + stress loops in the brain—literally making your nervous system addicted to the chaos.

💡 But here’s what breaks the cycle:
→ Naming it
→ Pausing instead of pleasing
→ Returning to your own body’s truth

Today, your power is in one pause:

“What do I need right now—not what they want from me.”

🔄 Practice of the Day:

The Cord-Cutting Visualization
(No need to talk. No confrontation. Just energetic release.)

Do this in a quiet space:

1. Close your eyes. Breathe in deeply.

2. Imagine a string between you and the person who drains you.

3. See yourself gently cutting the cord with golden scissors.

4. Say out loud:

“I release what is not mine to carry.”
“I call my energy back to me.”

Do this anytime you feel pulled into old wounds or guilt.

🧘‍♀️ It’s not magic—it’s energy hygiene.

📚 Today’s Pick

💬 Quote:
“Your energy is your responsibility. Guard it. Ground it. Glow with it.” – Unknown

📱 App:
Tapping Solution – Try their “Release Toxic Relationships” guided EFT session (10 mins of emotional freedom work)

📖 Book:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab – An empowering, practical guide to healing and reclaiming your emotional safety.

📈 Mindful Growth:

The Nervous System Rewires When You Say “No” Without Explaining

🧠 Each time you set a boundary—even if it’s small—your body learns:
“I’m safe. I don’t have to shrink to be loved.”

Here are 3 nervous-system-friendly boundaries to try today:

• “I need time to think. I’ll get back to you.”

• “That doesn’t work for me right now.”

• “I’m not available to discuss this.”

No guilt. No essays. Just clarity in kindness.

💬 From My Heart

There was a time when I stayed in a friendship far too long—because I thought loyalty meant silence.

But one day I realized:
Loyalty to others should never require betrayal of self.

Since then, I’ve learned the art of the quiet exit.
No drama. No revenge. Just peace.
That’s what I wish for you too.

🧘🏻‍♀️ Daily Meditation

Guided Meditation for Freedom from Toxic Relationships!

✅ Today’s Task:

“The Energy Audit”

📓 In your journal (or Notes app), write down:

1. Who leaves me feeling lighter?

2. Who leaves me feeling anxious or drained?

3. What boundary can I practice today?

Then, pick ONE person you need space from.
→ Send a silent message: 👇🏻

“I release you. I choose peace.”

🧘 Post a story or tweet: 👇🏻

“Protecting my peace like it’s my superpower. #DailyCalmChallenge”

Let’s normalize peaceful boundaries.

📥 Know someone who's stuck in a draining dynamic?

Forward this to them with love.

You might just hand them their first breath of freedom 💌

Your Wish is my Command!

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Thanks for reading.

Until tomorrow!

Shinky & The Daily Calm team